Please know that I understand that it’s now my job to keep myself well, and I have a plan in place to make sure this happens. I finally have answers for why this happened, and I am open to any questions you may have. I said things no one would choose to say to someone in a business setting. I left work in a way that was probably confusing and very upsetting. I know that my illness and the behavior it caused was very hard on you. Once again, acknowledge what it was like for the other person and put yourself in their shoes: Here’s an example of what you can say if you’re trying to salvage a career after a particularly nasty episode. Rebuilding a professional relationship takes guts, when all you want to do is hide under the nearest rock and stay there. I am thinking of you and your needs as well as my own. For now, I could use your help in getting this illness under control. I know you went through something as well, and I promise that when I’m feeling better, we can explore how it was for you and what I can do to make things better. I have no idea how I’m going to get through this, but I want you to know that I’m going to give it all I have. I’m tired and worn out from these mood swings. Here’s an example of what you can say to loved ones if bipolar just threw your life-and as a result, theirs-upside down: Even if you’re feeling fragile or ashamed, opening yourself up to the experiences of others and letting them know that you understand their perceptions can make all the difference. Expanding your vision to think about what other people in your life went through when you were ill and what they need during your rebuilding is critical. Massive episodes-like the time I dumped my partner and took off for China on my own with basically no money-deeply affect the people around you, and it takes a lot for them to get over it. The day I finally turned the focus off myself and onto other people and their needs, my life changed for the better. I cried, complained, and told anyone who would listen, “No one understands my pain!” This went on for years. I lost husbands, careers, friends, and a whole lot of money because of bipolar episodes. But if your own personal experience is your sole focus, rebuilding will be tough. Talking with creditors, school, work, and those you may have hurt is never easy, but I can say from personal experience that life can be even better than it was before if you face the rebuilding head-on, no matter how much it might hurt.īipolar is such a selfish illness: My depression, … my massive manic episode. Many of us with bipolar disorder make terrible decisions when we are ill, and rebuilding our lives afterward is naturally overwhelming-especially after a massive episode, when extreme mania and psychosis might have put you in the hospital or in jail (or both). Fixing relationships with those you may have hurt during a mood episode is never easy, but it is possible.
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